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When I was a girl, growing up in the small township of Rockland, New York, there was a tiny post office, which was a small room with a separate entry in the house next door. Rockland’s official postmistress was Clara Weiss, who seemed very elderly even when I was a very small child. She was what we used to call a “maiden lady” or spinster, who had dedicated her life to taking care of her mother, who was disabled, and also not quite balanced. Mrs. Weiss had one leg, and frequently escaped from the house and crawled around the yard, yelling strange things. Clara, as you might suppose, did not have much of a social life. After her mother died, and Rockland lost its tiny post office (we had to go into the slightly larger town of Roscoe, a mile away) Clara went to work in the central postoffice, about 20 miles away. There, she met a co-worker, and when she was 73 years old, I remember that we gave her a bridal lingerie shower. It really is never too late to fall in love. Clara moved away to live with her husband, and they had about 10 good years together.
A number of years ago, a friend and former student of Richard’s, who was in her 70′s reconnected with an ex whose marriage proposal she had rejected in her 20′s, because he had a drinking problem. In the intervening years, they both married other people, had children and full lives. Fifty years after their first romance, when both were widowed, he tracked her down, she went down to San Diego to meet him for lunch, and didn’t return for a week. They, too, married, and had some happy years together.
A very dear friend of mine, who lives in another city and has been divorced for many years, has been living happily for a couple of years with the man she met in college and decided not to marry. They had each married other people, had children, divorced years ago and reconnected last year. They are happy together.
In addition to these stories of reconnected love, I often see clients in my practice who get back together after breaking up or divorcing. In fact, some couples come to me after they have broken up several times because of fighting and disagreements, but something always pulls them back together. Surprisingly enough, many people do start dating again after they’ve divorced or split up. I believe in the power of love, and if your heart is yearning; It’s fine to reach out to a first or former love—as long as you do it properly.
You may never have really resolved the old relationship satisfactorily, or one or both of you may have matured and become a more suitable candidate for a relationship. Lots of people find out they appreciate each other more after they’ve been apart for a while. Also, as I said, I’ve seen a number of couples re-connect joyously much later in life, after having marriages and families with other partners.
It depends on how accurate your memory is, and how good or bad the reality feels. If it’s good, then you really think it was ”love at first sight.” If it’s bad, you are left with “what was I thinking?” It’s very easy to idealize someone you’ve never known well—the reality never impinges on the fantasy, so the ideal person doesn’t tarnish. You remember a rosy picture of perfection. That’s difficult to let go of, if you never get a reality check.
Can this really work, or will it just fall apart again? Here’s how to see if you and your ex can make it work.
Dr. Romance’s Guidelines for Improving the Odds with your Ex
• Consider seeing a therapist on your own, to get expert help to decide if you’re searching for this old love for the right reasons; and to help you get some perspective on what might need to be corrected.
• Make a careful first contact: strictly “Hi, how are you doing?” For example, if you see the old love on Facebook, try sending a message and asking to be friends. Don’t say anything about still having feelings. Your old love may very well be married now, or even gay. You need to find out what’s going on before making a move.
• Be aware whether forgiveness is needed. Did you hurt this person’s feelings way back in college? Were you hurt? Old, unresolved feelings can hang around a long time, and erupt when you least expect it.
• If you get a positive response, go very slowly. Rushing into things means you’re trying to avoid some truths. If it’s going to work, it will go better if you take the time to build a better foundation than you had before.
• Treat it like a new relationship. Start from the beginning, and do it differently—it could work this time.
• Analyze what went wrong the last time, and consciously try to fix the old problems. If you cannot talk honestly about what went wrong and what to do differently, you’ll never change anything.
• Make sure your ex is as determined to improve on the old relationship as you are. If he or she is blaming you for everything that went wrong, disaster is immanent. If you’re blaming your ex, it’s just as big a problem.
• Insist on couples therapy for both of you. Pre-commitment therapy can help you find out the pitfalls and whether you’ve solved the old problems.
After all this, you might still find it’s too late to remedy the problem that led to the breakup. You may discover you’re clinging to a fantasy that is not supported by reality. If you try to re-kindle an old love, and it doesn’t work, then you’re faced with letting go—again.
You might even have the urge to try harder because breaking up finally gets through the denial and the fantasy that behaving badly or not cooperating is OK. We also have a lot of cultural mythology about “I’ll never stop loving you” which says clinging and martyring to this lost love means you are truly in love. But clinging to an impossible lost love is unrealistic.
You must understand that a relationship is a partnership, and requires work from both partners in order to succeed. The initial romance stage isn’t supposed to last, the relationship is supposed to grow into a real life partnership, and that requires paying attention, learning and growth. It’s not a fairy tale—it’s a real life love story, and well worth the work required. If you give nothing, you get nothing. Love is something we create by working together, and one person can’t force it.
Clinging to a lost love can turn toxic: persisting in showing up at your ex’s house, calling or showing up at work, threatening physical harm, calling your ex’s family and friends, or otherwise interfere with his or her life, will not only push your ex away, it is illegal in many states, and defined as stalking. Sometimes, clinging is encouraged, wittingly or unwittingly, by an ex who doesn’t really want to be with you, but who either doesn’t want to ‘hurt you’ or is still getting benefits (financial help, sex without commitment, you do the laundry, you’re willing to take the kids more than your share) that he or she doesn’t want to jeopardize. But this one-sided arrangement will not make you happy, and it’s probably time to move on.
Once you’re bonded with someone, it’s very painful to let go. Since most of us like to avoid our feelings, we don’t want to do the grieving that’s necessary to let go. But, when you’ve had a loss, there are a certain number of tears you must cry to let go—getting on with the crying is the fastest way. Also, the dissolution of the relationship might not have been your idea, so you’re clinging to a dream—in denial. And letting go is the path to finding the love you want.
I wish you love—whether it is rekindled, or you move on and create something brand new.
Millions of people discover benefits in managing data about their lives. This means they are finding rewards using technology to track things like their spending habits, monthly budgets or even making out grocery lists. The equipment created in this age of know how and machines goes a bit further with one more application for your smart phone.
Along with managing practical data, people will check what is going on with their Facebook page or read the latest blog post from their favorite site. The Beam Company introduced a unique way to take care of how you brush your teeth. This is an application for your cell phone which analyzes and determines if your dental regiment is on the right one.
why use the app?
According to the company that created it, analyzing how users brush will let them make changes to this habit which are meaningful. More importantly, parents are able to verify how well their children are doing in this department. The app and equipment that comes along with it monitors oral hygiene habits and reports them back to you for analysis. After reviewing it make meaningful changes.
‘Nonsense.’ That was the term my mother often used when I slipped in a few lies here and there about how my brother broke the antique lamp or that the fight at school was completely not my fault. However I was certain, she had never used the word to describe the scene that was playing out in front of my very own eyes on this particular Saturday night; but I’m sure she would definitely agree with the description.
It was just past twilight, in fact, the sky still held a dark purple hue that lay tucked beneath the black curtain of night just on the western horizon. The air was husky with pine needles and old dirt that the local Arizona farmers had tilled up earlier that afternoon. But that was what really raised up the bumps along my skin. Normality contradicted this sci-fi bull-hockey so much that it left chills roaming the rigid vertebrates of my spine. I mean, come on, who would have thought a vampire looking dude would ever be caught fighting what looked to be the most freaky boogie man ever in Arizona’s own backyard?
They moved to a silent rhythm, duplicated the second most ridiculous dance that I have ever seen. The first dance would have to be my brother’s after his 18th birthday when he sneaked out and got drunk.
The man moved quickly, however, and was able to get the upper hand in things without much of a struggle. Looking back, I suppose it only lasted a few minutes but at that moment, I could have sworn time had been just as too transfixed as I was to move. I sucked in a heavy breath of those big ole’ pine needles just as the vampire raised his clawed fist as he jumped before bringing down his hand onto the hairy, black beast’s massive head, splitting it in half without anything more than a sickening ‘crunch’.
‘The bigger they are, the bigger they fall’, came to my mind as the monster collided with the rocky path that divided two soil pastures. Although, I was pretty sure my heart could have been heard all the way to Illinois, the vampire man did not make any acknowledgment to my presence as he slumped over the monstrous corpse and began a low, monotone chant.
At that point there was no doubt in my mind, I was either insane or I was having hallucinations. As if assuring I was crazy, the man swept his fingertips along one of the monster’s four eyes and it vanished with the conclusion of his chant that ended with the word ‘muri’. The word rolled off his tongue, heavily dosed with an unrecognizable accent, sourly as if it tasted bad just to say. His accent was nothing like the cowboy drawl that easily wooed me, but it was much more mysterious and compelling. It made a preacher’s daughter want to dive on into the McCiver’s pond, bare skinned just like the Harver’s twins that had no problem strutting their God gifted double d’s that put to shame my regular b’s.
By now the moon had become more apparent since the purple had completely faded and left behind a starry heaven that mocked everything which had happened within the past minutes. Just as I thought, I would be left unseen sitting beneath the large pine tree, I was proven gravely mistaken and the vampire arched his chin and turned his eyes from the ground onto my own. Although, I was pretty positive, my face, including my green eyes, were veiled by the tree limbs’ shadows. He seemed to look into them directly. It was as if I had gone ahead and stripped without the pond and was standing naked just inches from him. The distance between us stretched out a good thirty-feet, but I already knew he had dark eyes and a set of strong bone features that complimented his natural manly features just by watching him fight earlier. His face was exquisite but it seemed impossible for it not to be when it was attached to the evenly toned six-feet body that was shown off beneath nothing but a leather jacket and a pair of raggedy blue jeans. For second time that night, time seemed to stand still as neither of us moved or spoke. It was bone chilling how his expression stayed so blank for so long.
At last, I exhaled heavily unable to hold in my breath any longer, causing his eyebrow to twitch in mild irritation, as if he had hoped I were dead. The book on my lap fell to the ground with a muffled ‘thud’ as I stood up quickly, my eyes never leaving his. I already had mapped out a plan that involved running and more running with my tail tucked nicely between my legs. The only problem was he was in the path of my house and if I chanced going another direction, I would have twice the land to cover before I ran into another house. Not to mention, I was a horrible runner.
When I moved, he did nothing but stared with his hands idly in his pockets and a distant expression on his face. What would he do if I tried to run past him? Maybe, I could make it to Harold’s house in time before he was able to catch up. But I knew I was only kidding myself into believing that I could actually outmatch this guy. At last, time picked up again and aggravation as well as fear caused me to break.
“What?” I asked shakily, placing a hand on my hip. “Stop your staring, Mister!”
Okay, this was most definitely not the brightest thing to do or say to a potential psychotic killer. It was like those dumb blond girls on horror movies who called out ‘who’s there’, or ‘hello’, as if the killer would just come out and talk to them. The vampire continued to stare at me for a few more minutes before his lips parted into a sharp toothy smile; the same smile I had seen when he had been slicing away at the monster. His teeth were abnormally jagged behind his lips, which was why I had assumed he was a vampire. I stomped my foot angrily at his smile; again I admit not the brightest thing I’d ever done.
“What is so fun-…?”
Within a split second, the man had vanished just to reappear less than a foot away from me, causing my sentence to halt to a dead stop with a lump of terror in my throat that cut off my breath as well. He outstretched his hand towards my cheek, his expression savage and wild, and leaned forward enough that I could taste his mint breath. I did not mean to notice the way his lush eyelashes fluttered as his exhale broke off with a whisper or the way his lower lip extended slightly further out than the upper as his tongue rolled beneath the weight of the words.
And then he was gone.
MORE than 4,000 children, parents and carers are on course to benefit from Snack Right, an innovative healthy eating programme.
Sixty-five fun events promoting healthy snacking will have been held at children’s centres by the end of Cheshire Cheshire, county, England
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Snack Right was devised by Cha MPs social marketing group led by Dr Knowsley The placename Knowsley in Merseyside in England can mean:-
- Knowsley (village)
- Metropolitan Borough of Knowsley, includes the village
- Knowsley Safari Park
- Knowsley North and Sefton East (UK Parliament constituency) parliamentary constituency .
“Snack Right aims to provide young children with the best start in life,” she explains.
“If we can encourage parents to give children fresh fruit and vegetables as snacks, instead of foods high in fat, salt and sugar, there will be improvements in their development and growth as well as their long term health.”
Top tips for healthy snacking
Cut up fruit and veg it makes it more appealing to children’s eyes.
Remember snacking on fruit and veg helps with your five a day.
Fruit and veg are an affordable snack especially if you buy in season.
Healthy snacking may also improve behaviour (no E numbers and additives)
Healthy snacks release energy slowly, keeping children active.
FRUITY FUN: Snack right
The level of education that anyone needs these days may vary. There are basically numerous specialty schools and colleges that admit students who would like to learn certain skills that they can use in real life setting. You may have heard of beauty schools in the USA where anyone can learn the art of hairdressing, makeup for variety of events and occasions, and hairstyling. These are the types of careers that unfold in front of beauty students as they learn the basic skills and their specializations several months later.
Same goes for those who would like to become massage therapists. Unlike beauty schools that have informal setting and modules, massage schools offer curriculum that’s similar to many other bachelor’s degree courses. The aim of many massage training schools is provide proper training and certification of individuals who are enrolled.
Massage therapy is similar to physical therapy in a sense that the individual is trained to understand the pressure points of the body and where to properly apply pressure when needed in order relieve muscle tension.
But why go over all these trainings if one is bound to work in the wellness industry and not the medical field?
First of all, you will be dealing with people with certain reasons for visiting a wellness spa, for example. Though they are not injured or sick, they need specialized treatment that only massages can provide. A non-graduate of massage therapy or someone who just knows how to give massages is likely to cause injuries than someone who has proper training in proper massage training schools setting.
Another important reason, as stated earlier, is to earn certification. The wellness industry is huge because many people are after the services of massage therapists and spa businesses. It used to be a small market, but these days you will find clients who are truly investing their money in wellness services and products. They are tired, weary, and needing rejuvenation from working too hard. And of course, the business-minded folks have seen this increasing need. You can find stand-alone spa centers, spa resorts, hotels, and salons with such extended services.
With the interest of business folks in establishing their spas and wellness centers, the need for qualified people is definitely a requirement. First one to check is the massage training schools if they have graduating students who would like to become interns. Internships allow any student to see a real-life setting of the possible work they may end up with after graduation. It also allows them to learn from their mentors about different techniques they can apply in the future.
While others just let go of the opportunity by not getting a proper training in a massage college or training institute, they are also losing credibility as time goes. The purpose of massage colleges or training schools is to provide the credibility you deserve through education, practical application, and of course certification. Just think of how you will be selected, if ever, by a spa or wellness center if have enough credentials and the documents to prove them.
You can learn about massage school by searching on the web. Browse through their courses and training that will best fit your innate skills and capacity.
Aetna Launches New Smartphone App That Lets Customers in Latin America Find Nearby Doctors, Hospitals
HARTFORD, Conn.–(BUSINESS WIRE)–Aetna’s globally mobile customers now have a new tool to stay healthy when they move or travel to Latin American or the Caribbean. They can use their smartphones to find local doctors, clinics and hospitals in Aetna’s network of providers in nearly every country in the two regions.
“Our goal is to make sure our global customers can easily find health care wherever they might be.”
This week, Aetna (NYSE: AET), a leading global diversified health care solutions company, launched its Latin America Provider Directory mobile app. With content in Spanish, Portuguese and English, the multi-lingual directory lets Aetna’s international customers find nearby doctors and hospitals, get directions to the facilities, and link to helpful information on what to do before and after their appointment. The app also makes it easy to add appointments to their electronic calendars.
“We know that traveling or moving to a new country is stressful. Needing a doctor on top of adjusting to a new country can be especially stressful,” said Eugene Marks, Aetna International’s general manager of the Americas. “Our goal is to make sure our global customers can easily find health care wherever they might be.”
Aetna’s Latin America Provider Directory is the latest in a series of smartphone apps for its global network of more than 100,000 health care providers outside the United States. Aetna also has directory apps of providers in Europe, the Middle East, Southeast Asia and Shanghai. The free apps are available in both iPhone and Android formats.
Aetna has been a pioneer in developing mobile technology tools to help its customers manage their health. In addition to offering provider directory apps, the company recently introduced a claim submission app for its members outside of the United States. Aetna also has apps that can help its customers understand their symptoms, monitor their exercise and eating habits, and track their claims.
In December 2012, Aetna was honored with an Asia-Pacific EMMA award for the most innovative use of technology in global mobility by the Forum for Expatriate Management.
About Aetna International
Aetna International is committed to helping create a stronger, healthier global community by delivering comprehensive health benefits and health management solutions worldwide. Aetna International’s expatriate business is one of the industry’s largest and most prominent international health benefits providers, supporting more than 500,000 members worldwide. The organization’s expatriate offerings include medical, dental, vision, life, disability and emergency assistance. Aetna International’s health management business collaborates with health care systems, government entities and plan sponsors around the world to design and build locally applied health management solutions to improve health, quality and cost outcomes. For more information, see www.aetnainternational.com.
Aetna is one of the United States’ leading diversified health care benefits companies, serving approximately 37.3 million people with information and resources to help them make better informed decisions about their health care. Aetna offers a broad range of traditional, voluntary and consumer-directed health insurance products and related services, including medical, pharmacy, dental, behavioral health, group life and disability plans, and medical management capabilities, Medicaid health care management services and health information technology services. Aetna’s customers include employer groups, individuals, college students, part-time and hourly workers, health plans, health care providers, governmental units, government-sponsored plans, labor groups and expatriates. For more information, see www.aetna.com.